“When I asked him why he loves me, he said that he loves my drive and my passion,” Young says.

“[She] is a softer beauty, someone you can take home and cuddle with, and she’s very elegant,” Rochkind says.

“And she’s 5-foot-2, so she can’t be a runway model, but I think she’s really beautiful and is prettier than anyone I’ve dated.” Carly has no qualms about how her future husband views her compared with his exes.

But some disturbing data shows that as women, if we want to be attractive as we age, the best thing we can do is really just not age past 20.

Christian Rudder, co-founder of OKCupid, wrote an article on Jezebel that delves into the dating site’s data “built from tens of millions of preferences expressed in the act of finding a date.” The data reveals some pretty depressing results about what men are looking for in women. Before 30, they’re looking for slightly older men; once they hit 30, they are interested in someone slightly younger.

After dating an athletic banker with model good looks for two years, Sonali Chitre, 34, has sworn off hotties.

“He was a Nazi about his diet and would work out hard-core and cared more about his body than just living life,” says Chitre, who broke up with the finance guy last October.woman from Hoboken, NJ, also changed her dating habits.The svelte, blue-eyed brunette used to exclusively date 6-foot-tall dudes who looked like Calvin Klein models.When it came to dating in New York as a 30-something executive in private equity, Dan Rochkind had no problem snagging the city’s most beautiful women.“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper East Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair.“But after a date or two, they’ll have problems hanging out with you and then will ghost.” Last year, she stopped putting looks at the top of her dating criteria on Bumble, instead opting for guys who traveled a lot and were “make the most out of their lives” types.